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Online couples therapy, when is it useful?
But online therapy is not only an option in times of coronavirus. There are many reasons why you can opt for this type of therapy, especially if you cannot travel to our office in Barcelona or El Vendrell. Look at some examples of situations where online couples therapy is ideal:
If you want to hire our services but you live far away
If you have little time available and prefer to save on travel.
If you are not able to leave your children with someone, you can do the therapy online from home when they are asleep.
If you want a 100% guarantee that the treatment will be confidential.
If one of the two suffers from a disease such as a physical disability or multiple chemical sensitivity that complicates your movements.
If one of you is afraid of open spaces or any other psychological problem that makes it difficult to come in person.
If each member of the couple is in a different place, because platforms like Skype allow us to make three-way calls easily.
I’m 42 years old and I live in Ghana. I felt the need for therapy, but in Ghana there are not many psychologists to contact. I was passed Patricia’s contact and decided to try Skype therapy and it worked! Skype turned out to be a good way to talk, reflect and solve situations. Thank you, Patricia!
If you are here, maybe you feel that…
When you argue, you often lose control and you don’t achieve anything. You realize that you have communication problems and you are getting increasingly distant. You are afraid that the family can shatter.
The rencor has been installed in your lives, there are things you are not able to let go and appear again when you least expect it.
You believed that, letting the time go by, things could go back to normal but you see that your relationship is at a standstill and it is even getting worse.
Your sexual life is not satisfactory and it seems like it’s not going to change.
The relationship with your in-laws is not good at all and this fact is unpleasant for your partner, it’s impossible for you both to find an agreement.
You are sure about what your sons/daughters need but your partner has a different opinion, in the meantime your kids are not fine and you don’t know what you can do.
The atmosphere at home gets unbreathable and you would often prefer to stay at work. You deeply miss those moments when you enjoyed each other’s company and you were happy…
If you identify with these situations, you are in the right place. Here you will find solutions that work.
My method of Marriage Counseling is different
Couples therapy has usually been limited to face-to-face sessions with the psychologist. I know that you need to change things as soon as possible because being in a borderline situation makes you feel bad and doesn’t let you enjoy your life. And I know that between one session and the next you can make progress if I guide you and offer you the material and information you need.
With me the therapy has a beginning and an end and from the beginning we will define the schedule of the sessions so that you can organize yourself better. This way you don’t risk an endless treatment.
The sessions are biweekly and you will participate together in the visits that take about an hour and a half. So that you don’t get the feeling that you haven’t been able to advance.
The therapy is intensive and shorter than it is in other places. The results come so fast because I know you need changing things as soon as possible and I don’t want your pain lasts more than necessary.
What do you have to do to start online therapy?
The steps to follow are the same as for face-to-face couples therapy. Fill in this short form now with the information requested and I will contact you so that we can have the first free visit as soon as possible.
You’ve already taken the first step, you’ve moved on so that things don’t go on as they are now. It is normal for you to feel nervous or uneasy about what is going to happen during the sessions, about having to talk about your intimacy with someone you don’t know or about fearing what might come out.
I know this and I am aware of it. My aim is to accompany you in this process and to make you feel comfortable, in a safe environment, with the confidence that nothing you say or feel is going to come out outside the four walls of the office.
You will be in good hands, or at least in my hands, which will take care of you so that the whole journey is as pleasant and useful as possible. See you very soon…
Maybe you are asking yourself some of these questions…
What is online couples therapy?
Couples therapy is a type of therapy that can be done by specialist psychologists, with the main objective of solving the difficulties that you are experiencing in your relationship.
What is the therapy useful for?
The most ambitious goal of couples therapy is to help you build trust in each other. That the trust that you’ve probably had at other moments in your relationship. The trust that will make you feel that your relationship is solid, that you are friends again and that you can enjoy your sexual intimacy.
The trust that lets you know that you can count on each other, that you have unconditional mutual support. In short, it’s all about overcoming turbulent times to enjoy a healthier and happier relationship.
When it’s necessary to seek couples therapy?
Anytime you feel blocked and you want to go forward, the support of a psychologist who is specialized in couples, can be key. Maybe you have a temporary problem or maybe you are facing a critical situation for a while. According to my experience, I know that as soon you start up as fast you can get rid of the hard times and take back your well-being.
What’s up if my partner doesn’t want to come?
It is something usual that one of the two is more convinced than the other one about the need of seeking professional support. I am aware that you build together your couple relationship and if both of you take part with common goals, it will be easier that you can make progress.
Anyway this doesn’t mean that only one is not able to trigger changes so, if your partner doesn’t want to come, don’t worry about that and start youself.
The most important point is do not letting go your concerns and start up to build the relationship you need.
However this doesn’t mean that one is not capable of triggering change so if your partner doesn’t want to come, don’t worry and start yourself. The important thing is not to let go of your worries and move on so that you can create the relationship you need.
Who is online couple therapy for?
I work with heterosexual couples as well as with homosexual couples. I look after multicultural couples, couples with a big age gap, re-built couples who live or not with sons/daghter from former relationships, couples with long-distance relationships…. If what concerns you is your couple relationship and what you can do in order to make it stop being a source of pain, then you can work with me.
How many sessions are necessary?
According to my experience, I can tell you that we can deduce that if both of you are willing to turn little changes up, 12 sessions will be enough in order to produce relevant changes. Keeping in mind the fact that the sessions are biweekly, this means a period which lasts about 6 months.
What do we do during the sessions?
For sure you have seen, more han once, some images of a psychological therapy in movies or in TV fiction. I don’t use a divan and my first goal is getting to know you more deeply. This is why we will talk about what mostly makes you feel worried at this time and about how you have made the decision of searching for help. It will also be very important to find out what you have been trying so far in order to solve your differences with the aim of clarifying what did not work properly. With all this information we will be able to understand what is going on and we can start to seek new ways to face it.
Does online couples therapy really work?
The several investigations we looked up, indicate to us that 80% of the couples who attend, are able to improve their level of satisfaction in their couple relationship, therefore the answer is yes.