6 myths about infidelity you should know

What we usually think about infidelity is filled with beliefs that both clinical experience and literature slowly debunk.

In this post, I will talk to you about the myths about infidelity that we often take for granted so that you can keep them in mind and avoid being misled.

If you are dealing with infidelity right now, this post can help you better understand what happened and may help you relieve yourself of guilt and recurrent thoughts that may be occupying your mind all the time.

6 myths about infidelity you should know

Read these myths about infidelity and let’s see how many of them you believed to be true and you’ll manage to debunk in this article.

1. Infidelity only occurs in couples who don’t love each other or are unhappy.

Infidelity can occur in couples who have good relationships. Infidelity often has little to do with love and more to do with longing and crossing certain boundaries.

2. Infidelity is due to sexual attraction.

The appeal of the affair doesn’t have much to do with sex. It has much more to do with how the unfaithful person feels being looked at by the admiring eyes of their new love. Another great attraction lies in the opportunity to play new roles and the chance to grow in a new setting or relationship.

3. The unfaithful person always leaves clues, so if you haven’t realized that your partner is cheating on you, it’s because you’re living in the clouds.

Most infidelities leave no trace and are never detected. Some people can compartmentalize their lives with great success or lie so brilliantly that their affair is never discovered.

4. When a person is unfaithful, they may not necessarily lose interest in having sex with their stable partner.

The excitement generated by the affair can increase passion at home and make sex much more hotter.

5. When someone is unfaithful, they find faults in everything that happens at home, becoming more critical.

The unfaithful person can become charming and very accommodating to avoid suspicion. This obviously requires a great effort, so sometimes we observe how that same person alternates stages in which they are lovely with stages in which they are highly critical.

6. There is infidelity even if there is no sex.

You can have an affair without the need for sex. Sometimes the greatest betrayals occur without having touched another person since any sexual or emotional intimacy that violates trust can be considered as an infidelity.

Other Facts About Infidelity You Might Not Have Known

In addition to the myths about infidelity that I’ve already shared with you, I also want to bring you some facts that are backed by evidence and that will also help you have a clearer understanding of this phenomenon. Let’s see how many of these things you already knew and which ones challenge your beliefs about this topic.

People are more likely to be unfaithful when others in their social circle have been unfaithful.
When a couple is entirely focused on their children and neglects their relationship, their vulnerability to infidelity increases.
When the woman is the one who has been unfaithful, it is usually the result of dissatisfaction with the relationship and is often more difficult to save or recover the relationship.
When infidelity is discovered, the person who has been unfaithful tends to think it is better not to explain everything that has happened to avoid causing pain to the aggrieved person. Often, reality says just the opposite; the aggrieved person needs to ask, know, understand…
When infidelity is discovered, it offers committed couples who want to continue fighting for their relationship, an opportunity to strengthen their bond. Exploring vulnerabilities often leads to greater intimacy.
When infidelity ends in a breakup and the new relationship flourishes, it doesn’t always work out. In fact, data from some studies suggest that a very high percentage, over 50%, end in breakup.
Over 90% of people in a relationship believe that monogamy is important, but at the same time, over 50% admit to having had an affair.

Did you already know these myths about infidelity?

You might have already known some of these myths or some of the facts, but they are much more widespread than we think, which is why I wanted to dedicate this space to them.