What is couples therapy and what does it consist of?
When to go to couples therapy?
When to go to couples therapy? I would recommend you to seek for a professional as soon as you notice your relationship is not working anymore, just like when there is something not working around you, you seek the opinion of an expert, the same should happen with your relationship
If there is something between you that is not working, the sooner you seek help, the sooner you can solve it.
In the video I tell you the 3 situations in which we offer couples therapy, but when in doubt, better consult!
Maybe you are asking yourself some of these questions…
What do you do in couples therapy?
I’m sure you’ve seen images of psychological therapy more than once in a movie or on a TV show. They are sequences that often bear little resemblance to what happens in reality.
I don’t use a couch and my first objective is to get to know you better. To do this we will talk about what worries you most at the moment and how you have decided to seek help. It will also be very important to find out what you have tried so far to resolve your differences so that you are clear about what has not worked. With all this information, we will be able to begin to understand what is happening and to start looking for new ways to face it through dialogue, practical proposals, training in new skills…
How can couples therapy help me?
The most ambitious goal of couples therapy is to help you build trust in each other.
That trust that you’ve probably had at other times in your relationship. The trust that will make you feel that your relationship is solid, that you are friends again and that you can enjoy your sexual intimacy
Couples therapy can promote the return of a healthy communication. Making couples talk, seeking understanding instead of conflict is a cornerstone for couples therapy. it can also help recognizing the differences and similarities of you as individuals and regain that trust that allows you to know that you can count on each other, that you have unconditional mutual support. In short, it’s all about overcoming turbulent times to enjoy a healthier and happier relationship.
How do I know if I need couples therapy?
As a general rule, if there are any difficulties between you and you are unable to overcome them yourselves, it is a good time for a consult.
I always like to make the equivalent of visiting a doctor. If you have a pain or discomfort you usually find a way to manage it. If after a few days you don’t make it, you consult a doctor. When you seek help early for a health problem you may find a simpler remedy than if you take months or years to seek for help.
The same is true for couples’ psychologists. Studies tell us that it takes couples an average of 7 years to seek help from the time they start having difficulties. And after all that time, for some it may be too late.
Don’t let this happen to your relationship and consult as soon as possible.
What can I do if my partner doesn’t want to come?Let me give you some clues that might work for you:
- Try to bring it up in a calm moment and not in the middle of a discussion.
- Propose it not as a threat but as something constructive that you believe can be good for the relationship.