I am Patricia Maguet, clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy in Barcelona. I’ve been working for real couples like yours for 30 years. I am committed to offering couples who consult us the best tools to help them communicate and understand each other, to enjoy their relationship again and to feel better.
What is couples therapy and what does it consist of?
It consists of a series of sessions, either in person or online, in which both members of the couple, together with the professional, look for ways to face and solve those problems that complicate the relationship. The main objective is to ensure that the relationship is healthy and continues to be a source of support, trust and well-being for both.
Are you looking for a psychologist who can do couples therapy in English?
If so, I imagine you are concerned about whether he or she speaks and understands the language well enough.
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Maybe you are asking yourself some of these questions…
What do you do in couples therapy?
I’m sure you’ve seen images of psychological therapy more than once in a movie or on a TV show. They are sequences that often bear little resemblance to what happens in reality.
I don’t use a couch and my first objective is to get to know you better. To do this we will talk about what worries you most at the moment and how you have decided to seek help. It will also be very important to find out what you have tried so far to resolve your differences so that you are clear about what has not worked. With all this information, we will be able to begin to understand what is happening and to start looking for new ways to face it through dialogue, practical proposals, training in new skills…
How can couples therapy help me?
The most ambitious goal of couples therapy is to help you build trust in each other.
That trust that you’ve probably had at other times in your relationship. The trust that will make you feel that your relationship is solid, that you are friends again and that you can enjoy your sexual intimacy
Couples therapy can promote the return of a healthy communication. Making couples talk, seeking understanding instead of conflict is a cornerstone for couples therapy. it can also help recognizing the differences and similarities of you as individuals and regain that trust that allows you to know that you can count on each other, that you have unconditional mutual support. In short, it’s all about overcoming turbulent times to enjoy a healthier and happier relationship.
How do I know if I need couples therapy?
As a general rule, if there are any difficulties between you and you are unable to overcome them yourselves, it is a good time for a consult.
I always like to make the equivalent of visiting a doctor. If you have a pain or discomfort you usually find a way to manage it. If after a few days you don’t make it, you consult a doctor. When you seek help early for a health problem you may find a simpler remedy than if you take months or years to seek for help.
The same is true for couples’ psychologists. Studies tell us that it takes couples an average of 7 years to seek help from the time they start having difficulties. And after all that time, for some it may be too late.
Don’t let this happen to your relationship and consult as soon as possible.
What can I do if my partner doesn’t want to come?
Let me give you some clues that might work for you:
- Try to bring it up in a calm moment and not in the middle of a discussion.
- Propose it not as a threat but as something constructive that you believe can be good for the relationship.
In any case, if your partner does not see clearly and you feel you need help, ask for individual help. It’ll be a good way to get change going